Benjamin John Coolen

By December 27, 2013 Obituaries

Benjamin John Coolen, 63, of Moncks Corner, SC, a police officer, Vietnam Veteran, and husband of Bess Coolen, died Friday, December 27, 2013. A visitation will be held on Thursday January 2, 2013 from 10:00AM – 11:00PM at Simplicity Lowcountry Cremation & Burial Services, 7475 Peppermill Parkway, Suite E, North Charleston, SC. The funeral service will follow at 2:00PM at Beaufort National Cemetery, Beaufort, SC. Ben is from Massachusetts where most of his family lives. He was named after his grandfather, Captain Benjamin Coolen of the Linikin, from Boothbay Harbor, ME, husband of Ethel McKown Coolen who ran the Cool-Inn. He has a sister Debbie Mullen that lives in Boothbay Harbor Me. He has three sons, twins, Michael and Jeffrey in Massachusetts and Ben Jr. in Oklahoma. Ben was predeceased by his sister Paula and her husband Joe. Ben was very involved with his niece and Goddaughter Jodie and his nephew Louis. He not only helped to rear his sons, he helped rear Bess’ four, Thomas and Loretta Connell, Heather Rosa, Lori Alkaldi and our adopted daughter Vanessa. He also had three nieces and nephews, Tammy, Kevin, and Eddie Mullen. Ben and Bess had many grandchildren together “17?. Ben loved life and people. He gave his life for this country when he was sent to Viet Nam and sprayed with the poisonous “agent orange”, not only that it seemed to take a part of him away. Bess watched Ben decline in health mostly this past year than in all the 23 years they had been together. Ben’s “brother in Vietnam” Kenny Robinson and his wife were here as well and Bess’ children and many of the grandchildren were at his bedside. Ben was a lifetime member of VFW post 9509. “My husband is the love of my life. We “matched”, he will forever be in my heart he leaves a big empty space in my life and it hurts but I know he is in a better place!” ~Bess Coolen

Arrangements by Simplicity Lowcountry Cremation & Burial Services, North Charleston, South Carolina.

17 Comments

  • Bess Coolen says:

    My husband is from Massachusetts where most of his family lives. He has a sister Debbie Mullen that lives in Boothbay Harbor Me. He has three sons, twins,Michael and Jeffrey in Massachusetts and Ben Jr. in Oklahoma. Ben was predeceased by his sister Paula and her husband Joe. Ben was very involved with his niece and Goddaughter Jodie, he not only helped to rear his sons. He helped rear my four, Thomas and Loretta Connell, Heather Rosa, Lori Alkaldi and our adopted daughter Vanessa. We had many grandchildren together “17” . Ben loved life and people he gave his life for this country when he was sent to Viet Nam and sprayed with the poisonous “agent orange”, not only that it seemed to take a part of them away. I watched Ben decline in health mostly this past year than in all the 23 years we have been together. Bens “brother in Vietnam” Kenny Robinson and his wife were here as well ad my children and and many of the grandchildren were at his bedside. Ben was a lifetime member of VFW post 9509. My husband is the love of my life. We “matched”, he will forever be in my heart he leaves a big empty space in my life and it hurts but I know he is in a better place!

  • Heather Rosa says:

    Benji, the only dad that I really knew, may he rest in peace. I love him and will miss him dearly. Although I am sad to know that he is gone, I also know that he is in a better place. As tears of sorrow begin to fall, I think of the memories that were made between us all and I smile and laugh because that is who Benji was. The life of the party. The one to make someone laugh no matter how down they were. The love that mom and Benji had for one another is something that words cannot describe; from the way he looked at her when she didn’t even know he was looking to the songs they sang to each other at karaoke. His final moments, spent in the arms of mom (the love of his life) and the company of loved ones. He may be gone, but never forgotten.

  • Debbie Mullen says:

    Bess I want to thank you for all you did for Benjie. You were the best thing that ever happened to him. God Bless you and your family.

    Benjie was and always will be my little brother. He is now with the Lord. His Mom and Dad and his sister Paula are waiting for the rest of us to someday join them. Love you Benjie till we meet again. Oceans of Love your big sister Debbie

  • Enrique and Bonnie says:

    Dear Bess, Loretta, Vanessa :

    Ben was special to us. Ben always shared how much he loved his family. Ben was the salt of the earth. This world lost a good man. Heaven now has a special angel to look over his Bess, Loretta and Vanessa and the rest of his beloved family,

    Condolences with Love and respect for a good man who will be missed by all whose life he touched.

    Enrique and Bonnie Dejesus

    • Bess Coolen says:

      Bonnie, do you really have to lie about things Ben said to you even to his grave? We never kept things from each other or lied to one another. Means the things you kept saying to us that “he said” was a lie to get us to buy a house through you( you told me he wanted to get it for us leave us a legacy) I can only imagine what you told him to “Push” him into getting this home. You probably told him we needed it and we would be so proud of him (I have to pay for home and it’s not the plan I picked its what you picked). This is my dear sweet husband, not yours, maybe you crushed on him, but he loved me dearly. We were each others one true love. I want everyone to know that when we were around you you seemed to try to” want” him and act like I wasn’t there. My husband,Ben, saw that and is why we were going to fire you and start over with house hunting. My husband is in heaven his body in the grave. Please stop with your obsessive compulsive behavior and leave my family alone! Ben is/was my husband and Vanessa is my daughter, she is 13, if you try to meet with her again without my knowledge I will file a complaint of stalking. Leave my family alone!!! Don’t stop the kids on the street again like you did a few days ago. My Family NOT Yours!

  • Jane Packer says:

    Ness, I am so happy that Ben took such good crae of you and your families. You were fortunate but he is gone too soon. I still miss and always will. You were on of my fondest memories at KHS along with my angel, Sandy.
    RiIP Ben Coolen

  • jennie wiseman says:

    Bess, Many good memories you hold in your heart. Ben is there and always will be. So sorry for you and the family loss. He is in a better place. Until the two of you meet again.

  • Loretta says:

    Benjie,You were a great dad to us all and exspecially to vanessa,u were a great husband to my mom,and a wonderful grandfather to the grandkids…I love u and miss u soo much..U were there when we needed u…yes,u always knew how to make people laugh…we all made a lot of memories together that we will cherish forever..I know u loved my mother dearly as she did u,u guys had a love that was real and strong..it was very sad to see you go but we know u r no longer suffering and are in a better place…Im glad that i was there with u during ur final moments and mom as well as the rest of ur loved ones..the girls miss u so much as well…But u will always be with us.. love u benjie

  • Aalea Lopez says:

    Papi was the best grandfather anyone could ever have. He was so funny, he was litteraly the life of the party. I love him so much words can’t even explain how much I love him. He was always there . When I feel down I’d go in his room and he’d say something funny and make me laugh. I always think about him and it’s sad that he’s not here with us. Even though he’s not here he’ll always be in my heart, he’s in a better place now. I love you papi

  • Jodie Tierney says:

    Bess,
    I want to thank you for all you did for Uncle Benji! I’m especially grateful for the phone calls this last month! I really enjoyed talking with him and laughing! He could always make me laugh! I will always treasure those memories! Uncle Benji was the best! I know that he is in heaven with my grandparents and my mom! I have great comfort in knowing that they were waiting for him when he entered heaven!
    I love you Uncle Benji! May you rest in peace! XOXO

  • Jodie Tierney says:

    That is such a great picture of you two! Love it! XO

  • Cheryl lane says:

    Bess,
    You and Benji have always been good to us. We will not forget your kind hospitality that was shown to us while visiting you in SC. I admire the commitment that you and Benji have made together to Vanessa. Benji made had an awesome responsibility in caring for you and your children, but to him it seemed to be “natural” and he took that commitment to a whole new level!

    Joel and I will always remember when Benji introduced Joel to scooter riding! What fun he brought to Joel. That and his humor and kindness will never be forgotten.

    What a marvelous “Angel” you have watching out for you in heaven. This thought brings a smile to my lips. We will truly miss him and his good humor!

    God bless you! See you Wednesday.

  • Anne Mills says:

    I am very sorry for your loss. I knew Ben through my grandparents Bertha and Harold McKown. I haven’t seen him in many years since I was a teenager. I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. God Bless Anne Mills

  • Bess Coolen says:

    I still miss you just as much as the day we fell in love. Honey you know you left us 10 days after our dear friend Sandy Breault in Hartford I remember when you text me to tell me about her. I hope she too was waiting to greet you. I have to trust in the Lord that you are safe in his hands. I wish I knew the unknown. You told me to take care of Nessa and each other I am trying I want you to know how much I miss and love you. I hope your able to do everything that your illnesses stopped you from doing what you loved. I love you baby!

  • Heather Rosa says:

    Today makes 1 month we lost an amazingly wonderful man. It just doesn’t feel real. I still cannot wrap my brain around it. He meant so much to me words cannot describe. I never told him that, which I feel sad about. I just hope he knew how much he meant to me and that I love him. The kids miss him tons. There are so many every day things that remind me of Benji. Sometimes I laugh out loud to myself in the middle of the grocery store, smile for reasons no one would know while sitting at my desk, or cry at night when i have a moment to myself. Oh memories. We love you Benji always!

  • luis says:

    Bess I will like to said sorry for your lost and benji was one of the kind we wasn’t to close but who father is to the ex son in law well now god has him in heaven may his soul rest in peace and again bess so sorry for you lost god bless to all of you

  • Grant Burgess says:

    My world has become 1 shade darker… A great man, a great friend and a proud Vietnam Vet passed away on the 27th. Ben Coolen Ben was there for me through the years when i was in the throws of C-PTSD and too stubborn to get help. There were times when he sat at his computer in pain and played that stupid words with friends game with me until day break because i had a rough night. Ben helped me find my center when it felt like i was being swallowed alive by nightmares, cold sweats and panic attacks. He would say “well kid, i should get to bed my back hurts so bad i can hardly even sit up anymore… i would say ok… and he would say mmmmm no your not… one more game the sun will come up and we will both go to bed ok? Ben was my Brother in arms… my friend and always there for me. Ben you will be missed and thank you for all those long nights. REST IN PEACE MY BROTHER… REDT IN PEACE BEN!